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Girl Trouble :(
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on 2007-12-16 08:23:14 |
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Hi everyone :P, I was just wondering if I could get some of your opinions on my problem. I met this girl and she's nice but shy, we've been talking at the library for 3 months for 45mins everyday and then i asked her hypothetically if she would ever go out with me, she replies "i don't know" so i took it as a "no". She said it's not a "no" she said she would go out with me if she were more mature. She told me that she liked someone and then she says she doesn't know why she does, and that she doesn't want to like him. So then she asked me who i liked so i said her. She said that i could get anyone i want, so i asked "Can I get you then?" and her reply was "i don't know". I just want to know what you guys think about this matter, I'm kinda confused, I always think negative about these things so im guessing she just wants to be friends? |
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First do not think pessimistically, girls don't like guys who think of things that way.... (that was my worst mistake, i thought she doesn't like me cause she already told me that she liked someone but the truth is _Oo she likes me XD, i didn't grabbed the opportunity) You two are already acquainted with each other! you can even talk with each other EVERYDAY for 45 minutes!!! thats a good sign (if a girl dont like you she wont talk to you in the first place... yet you already told her your feelings and she still can speak to you? even though she's shy) Some girls likes challenges... dont give up easily XD GOOD LUCK LOVEBOY! :P |
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Re: Girl Trouble :(
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on 2007-12-16 09:21:17 |
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lol she sounds like me xD I don't know may just be her being shy. I say I don't know when I'm being shy and I'll feel recluctance but also excited. She ovbiously does like you somewhat to talk to you 45 minutes XD Ask her to the movies or something as friends/casual. That way she doesn't feel too pressured and will feel safe because you're not holding an expectation of it being a date. If things go well then consider asking her on a real date some other time :P |
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i think you should be excited now in your position because it may become your first chance to express how much you love her like getting to know each other you know.. asking some backgrounds about you. then you gotta ask her about a date then you and her will date in a simple place but romantic. did you know girls love suprising? ^^ just dont miss the first chance.  |
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Re: Girl Trouble :(
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on 2007-12-16 11:27:32 |
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she might get surprising =X as someone suddenly tells 'i like you' isnt the word that can be heard often =X the surprise she would get and doesn't know how to reply you 'i dont know' seems to be her best option to answer~ if you don't mind~ i would hope you make her as your friend then slowly into the relationship~ just to get know more between you both see if you both really got the 'sense' of love coming out from you both then decide whether you both ready to become couple or not ^^'' |
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Re: Girl Trouble :(
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on 2007-12-16 12:19:33 |
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That's too bad to hear she said "no", but you said she's a shy girl. In your first post, you said a few things on how she said "I don't know" a few times. From that, she could be confused with certain things, especially with the matter being related to relationships... In my opinion, just keep being her "friend", and getting to know her more as the months pass on by. Talking to someone for 45+ mins everyday is a great way to build one's relationship so keep going at it! There's the possibility that she was too shy or embarrassed to confess her feelings back, saying if she liked you back or so. There's also another possibility she said "no", because she felt pressured and thought that if she said "yes" without feeling fully secured about her decision, the relationship, not as a bf/gf could be lost, but as friends... So just keep talking to her for as long as you can, and maybe if you see another window open (if she doesn't like someone else in the next few months), you can try to make your move. 
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Re: Girl Trouble :(
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on 2007-12-16 18:15:23 |
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Women don't respond well to sneaky questions such as the hypothetical. If she were to answer with a "yes" she would be making herself vulnerable. You need to express your intent clearly, allow yourself to be vulnerable, which is a bold move. Boldness is charming to women, when it is done politely, of course. 
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Re: Girl Trouble :(
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on 2007-12-16 18:58:52 |
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haha~! I just know someone who has the same problem as you~! XD some girls say "no" even if they really mean "yes." they won't just say to you that they feel the same way towards you. they also feel awkward especially on those situations. the "I don't know" might also mean that she is embarassed and cannot respond with a simple yes or no. (or maybe she just don't know how to reject you or something like that). I'm not letting your hopes down but they are all possibilities of what it really mean. well, no matter what happens continue to be friends with her.  |