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Need help with a culture and dating related thing
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by Kiyoshi-kun
on 2008-01-16 16:38:19
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Hey all. I guess this is only my second or third post here and I'm unsure if this is where I should put this, as my question relates more to Korea than Japan. Anyways. I've recently joined a Kendo class in which there is a beautiful korean girl. All I know is that she is 17 years old, does Kendo, is incredibly shy ( I havent seen her anywhere else, so she may be social in other areas ),speaks english, and often leaves before everyone else, normaly exactly when class ends, and usually arives to class late. I myself am also 17 however an American (possibly worse a Texan lol) have no expeirance at all with dating, women, etc. I'm easily a good stereotype of an Otaku/gamer. pale, scrawny, and shy around women. I include these descriptions in the hopes it will effectivly paint a picture for my questions. If there is any other information that would be nice and help you to answer my question, please let me know. Now my questions are: 1. is it considred rude or frowned upon to ask someone out in the Kendo dojo before or after class? 2. is there a certain way to ask out a Korean girl? (keep in mind I have no knowledge of korean culture) 3. Absolutely anything I should know!! Ettiquite, how her parents might react... etc. etc. I'm probably not asking all the questions I want to but these are really all I can think of, any and all help would be immensly appreciated |
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Re: Need help with a culture and dating related thing
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on 2008-01-17 03:27:34 |
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I dunno about kendo (never seen the use of sporting sword schools myself). But I know there are no relationships inside the dojo. I am very close friends with my sensei at my school. He is a father to me. However, inside those four walls, he is sensei and nothing else. That's the way it is. I can't speak for your club, or even japanese culture in general, all I know is how it's been taught to me. So to answer your questions (as best as I can and without being too insensitive I hope): 1. If you're not in the dojo, I shouldn't think it's a problem. Justdon't let any uncomfortability get in the way of your training, someone will notice it. 2. Can't say much for korean culture, but if it's a kendo class you shouldn't have to do much. From my knowledge of korea in relation to japan, anything to relate to samurai in korea is illegal. The koreans were harshly treated by the japanese during the warring states period and even before. So if whe's in a kendo class, I shouldn't think she is orried to much about tradition. 3.You're on your own there kid. In this day and age cultures mix and clash and all sorts of crazy and colorful characters emerge. Just be polite, courteous and above all don't take any rejection too personally. If it all goes well, then great, if not, cut your losses and carry on training. I know I can't help much, but there you go.  |